I would like to start off with an image. Imagine you are a little boy or girl who has discovered something to them to be important and even mysterious. You don’t understand what it is that you have discovered but you take your discovery to someone whom you value and trust. This person would be a person with whom you have a good relationship with, and respect for their wisdom or insights. Since it is something you are only trying to understand you need to be sure that the person is a “safe place” to bounce your thoughts off of and get their feedback. So excitedly you bring your discovery to them and they shoot it down immediately. The thing you were excited about has become evidence to that person that you have wasted your time and furthermore implies that wasting time on such things makes you a bad person. How would you handle that?
Do you think you would become vulnerable to them in the future? It is hard to navigate the tricky waters of relationship with others when you stop looking ahead for the landmines. Most of us have them I’m sorry to say and they seem to catch us in our vulnerable moments. After all if we had remained more guarded we may have sensed that there was something lying in the dark waiting for that unsuspecting soul. But when you feel safe you leave your heart open because this is when real relationship can take place. If the heard is guarded you will save yourself a lot of pain but you also limit yourself to a realm outside of love.
The bible talks about the wisdom of guarding ones heart above everything else because out of the heart flow the issues of life. A heart that has been wounded needs attention from God right away. He has exactly what is needed to make the necessary repairs to you. Left to your own your heart will grow cold, bitter or just hard. You will no longer be the man or woman you were and you will not be able to help anyone down the road with others in trouble.
So the first impulse you may have, is to run from this friendship! It is not the way to go if you want to move forward in life. I have tried to withhold love, friendship etc. from people for a wound I received from their words, and I have lost things because of it. The devil will perch on my shoulder and tell me that I was wrong about such a person from the very beginning and should never have trusted them in the first place. I for one, struggle not to listen to the evil one. “Oh Jesus come and speak to me”, should be what I say right away and then I will have my shepherd right there to guide and comfort me. What He will reveal will be just what I need.
So if you think a person is your safe place to share you may find yourself getting hurt once in a while as we are all people in progress. I wish I could tell you that I am always a safe place for people but I can’t but Jesus I really want to be. I do know that if we want to grow and transform we need to just forgive, give the pain to Jesus, love again, and get back on the path He has called us to and that folks is what I find myself……. Just Thinking